Subcommunication with any woman and she will subconsciouly response.

Energy

The way we use our energy is indicative of our personalities and personal inclinations. How do women react to frustration?

Some of you may be familiar with some Eastern school of thought on how energies are used in the human body. Chinese philosophies refer to it as Chi, and the energy itself can have both female and male (Yin and Yang) "flavors" to it. The way we use our energy is indicative of our personalities and personal inclinations. Whatever you choose to call it, I think we all agree that this energy is very real, even if we're not sure how to channel it.

Now, don't worry, I'm not going off on a mystical California carpet ride with you. I'm just trying to highlight a concept with you that relates to dating.

I was having a talk with a fellow webmaster, and we were discussing how men and women channel their energies in their lives. Think about how you use your own creative energy, or your physical energy. We sometimes put it into our exercise, such as Triathlons and weightlifting. Or, you may be like me, a frustrated writer that needs to pour his mind out on paper as a form of mental therapy.

What about sexual energy? Now, any guy that's spent a couple weeks abstinent knows what I mean by this kind of energy, and you damn well know it's real, too. There are days of sexual frustration where you wake up and shut off your alarm with a roundhouse kick, and then you go to work and belt out about thirty pages of spreadsheets, upgrade the workstations on five floors, and it's not even 7:30 in the morning.

For a woman, sexual energy is less about immediate and direct gratification. Most of the women I have known never get "horny" the way a guy will. Sure, some do, but it's only after they've broken down some of their trust barriers with a man and can feel safe and secure about putting her more primal physical desires out there.

Now, think about frustration for a guy. When a guy gets frustrated from his goal, what happens? When you find yourself thwarted at every turn, what emotion begins to rear its head?

You get angry.

Men are hardwired by the testosterone in their bloodstream to feel aggression when they are held back from their desires. They get pissed, and then they are prone to get very aggressive. Now, luckily for modern civilization, we don't always act on this feeling, but if you look around you I think you'll agree that we still let that frustration find its natural outlet. I get frustrated at certain things in my life, and I'll feel the old Incredible Hulk syndrome start to kick in. (Even if I can't shred my shirt and kick as much ass as the Hulk can.)

How do women react to frustration?

Have you ever watched a woman when she gets flustered and teased? Have you seen how she behaves? I'll be honest, it's almost embarrassingly primitive and childish.

First, the women gets excited. It even looks amazingly like anger, but it's not. It's a delicious cocktail of thrilling and emotional energy.

Then, the woman gets TURNED ON.

She doesn't even realize it, but it's there. You see, women have an entirely different reaction and outlet for their frustration, and it's not like our male aggressive behavior. It's a form of FEMALE aggression, called sexual excitement. She can't get rid of the energy any other way.

Remember this. It's why women respond to the Tease to Please so strongly. It's why they respond to our challenges the way they do. And it's the secret for leading her into attraction for you.

At first, you may reject this as being too simplistic and cliche, but if you look behind the Hollywood smoke screen, you'll see that this is what she's looking for. This is what many women respond to, and it's a critical step in your building up mystery and challenge in her eyes.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

How to approach women with no rejection!

How to Meet Women With No Rejection

Prejudice. What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too...

Before I give up one of my secrets, I want to talk about a dirty word with you.

Well, it's not a cuss word, but it's dirty because no one wants to talk about it.

That word is: Prejudice.

What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too.

I grew up Italian and poor in a city in Upstate New York, near Buffalo. I used to catch a lot of grief for my nationality, but also because we had no money.

I remember distinctly one summer when I was working for the town. I had a few weeks left in the program to earn some money, and I was a po' little 15 year old kid. I just needed a few bucks to buy some stuff I needed for the school year.

I remember sitting in the office of the town recreation board supervisor. A big fat guy named Ron, if my memory serves. I sat there in his front lobby for a while to wait and see if I would get the job for a little longer that year.

Before my turn came to talk to Ron to find out, in walks big Vinny. No, that's no dumb mafia joke. Vinny was the son of a local business owner who had some clout in the area. Well, big Vinny and Big Daddy go into Ron's office, while I watch Ron slap Vinny's dad on the back like they were long-lost brothers. The door closes behind them and their laughter.

My heart sank.

Right then, I knew I didn't get the job. Vinny was all set, and Carlos was out in the cold.

I remember sitting there with that disappointed feeling in my gut, knowing that this little rich kid was going to screw me out of my few extra dollars for the summer. Money that daddy could have given him in a minute, but would take me a month to earn.

And now I wouldn't get it, and there wasn't a thing I could do about it. It was the good ol' boy's club, and I didn't meet their membership requirements.

Now, I could have gotten all mad about it, stomped my feet about it not being "fair," and all. It really wasn't even Vinnie's fault. He couldn't know.

But I remember having another realization. I thought that if Ron was stupid enough to hire a lazy dweeb like Vinny, then they can keep their lousy job.

Of course, that wasn't much consolation. Until I came up with another realization: I would WIN.

No matter how much the odds were stacked against me in life, I would prevail. I could have my dick kicked in the dirt, and I would get back up again.

So why am I telling you this? Yet another of Carlos' childhood stories... Well, it's because the unfair situation that I found myself in doesn't have to happen to you. Even if it comes up in another way.

You're a victim of women's prejudice, and you might not be aware of it. Just the same way I was as a kid, you are now. And it has nothing to do with your appearance or color of skin or even your income.

Let's break down the word a bit.

Pre-jud-ice.
Pre-judge.
To judge too soon.

Get this: It's been shown in some recent studies that we make snap decisions about people based on facial expressions and body language that takes place in less than the BLINK OF AN EYE. Literally.

I just finished this great book, "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell. It's a study of how the human brain makes all these complicated decisions without us even knowing about it.

In his book, he talks about these indicators and signals that we don't know we're seeing, but we're making judgments about other people based upon them.

Now something I want to add to this is that women are making them about YOU without you knowing about it.

Some of them will change if you take control of them, but a lot of them are tied DIRECTLY to your sense of self-esteem. You'll show them because they're impossible to control entirely.

Whoah. Think about that for a second. There are a bunch of things you can control about your appearance and so forth, but a lot of these behaviors are OUTSIDE your control. (Well, not completely, as I'll explain.)

I think this means that a lot of guys out there are treating the symptoms rather than the disease.

And that's exactly what you're doing if you are trying to learn a ton of new "tricks" and seduction/hypnosis tools without training yourself and working on your INNER game first. All those cool hypnotic words and "negging" techniques don't work right if you don't know how to properly communicate your Alpha value to a woman.

Sure, you can "peacock," but you have to have the right belief system to back it up or you'll come across as a dweeb in a top hat and eye-liner.

There's some good news here, though. You can learn how to override a woman's "Blink" response to you by bypassing it entirely.

That's right. When you demonstrate Alpha Male confidence, you are creating the persona (a REAL persona, not a fake) that will shut down or short circuit her subconscious attempts to shut you out of her life.

After all, on one hand, a woman wants love and affection and all that comes with it ...

... but on the other hand she also wants a trouble-free life. She has enough drama already, and she wants to avoid any possible heartache. So she creates a lot of fancy protection mechanisms to keep you from getting by without impressing her in the right way.

Just like a rock concert where you can't get past the big dudes guarding the band from groupies.

All you need is a backstage pass. That backstage pass is a concise method to approach women in any situation. To show, through your verbal power, that you are -

Confident

Secure

Interesting

Fun

For a long time, I had a problem talking with women. They just seemed like an alien life form to me. They liked makeup and sleepovers and pop songs about "girl power."

I felt like I had nothing in common with them.

But I finally figured out the amazing core elements of good conversation, and they work like a charm on just about everyone you'll meet. These elements can be learned and practiced with just about anyone, anywhere.

Here's one of them: Start with a contextual "opener."

What is a contextual opener? Well, it's one that obeys the rule of "Where the hell are you?"

In other words, if you want to walk up to that girl at the grocery store and say hello, don't ask her if she saw the fight out front. Don't tell her you want to read her palm. Those are club openers that would sound stupid in the Safeway meat section.

Instead, make sure the opener fits the situation. Not only will it work better, but you'll be much more believable with the words. It's a lot easier to talk about the real world around you than try to make up something dumb.

"Hey, have you tried that new high-quality roast beef they sell here? I'm planning a party and I want to know if it would be good to put on the platter."

There you go.

Does it make her toes tingle and her ni pples pop out? No. But it makes SENSE for where you ARE. And she'll be much more likely to respond.

Now, after she responds, chances are that she'll be a little overwhelmed by this unexpected interest and may be a bit bashful. (Guys often misinterpret a woman's shyness as disinterest.) This is where you have to reassure her and carry the conversation forward.

"Now if I'd known you weren't an expert on deli meats I would have asked someone else. But hey, you looked friendly." Shrug and say this with a slight smile. "Are you here doing some shopping after work?"

And just gently carry it forward...

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

How to Ask a Girl for a Date

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys.

Why?

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

The answer to the riddle is this: STOP asking women out!

First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."

Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU.

You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test you out. It's like her first drive of a new car. She doesn't want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes across to her) she'll say No, even if she isn't sure yet.

Most women are NOT attracted to you immediately unless it's by your looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal to win you the one you want, you'll be relying on "luck." There's a much better way.

Don't move so fast on her. Be patient. (Oh, and another fringe benefit of not asking a woman out is that you can't be rejected. Pretty cool, huh?)

Take a moment and think about which of these would be most interesting to a woman:

A) A meal and/or movie date that demonstrates no originality, and implies that she'll have to be considering you romantically, and that there will be pressure for her to be "on," and then after it's all done, she'll have to deal with your attempt to kiss her. Scary.

B) A chance to go out and have some fun, with no pressure.

Which one sounds better to you?

Now, if you're still leaning towards Option A, think about which one sounds better to HER?

Does Option B sound better now? You better believe it does.

Now, it may not seem to have your interests in mind right away, but that's not what winning a girl's heart is about. It's about forgetting what YOU want for long enough so that you can give her what SHE wants.

Let's put it this way - would you invest $10,000 of your hard-earned money in a stock you'd never even heard of before? No way! You'd want to see what the company is about, check out the fundamentals. And THEN you might be willing to invest a few hundred or so.

That's what it looks like to her - potentially BIG risk, and no guarantee of return.

There's a saying: "You can have anything you want in this world if you just help enough other people get what they want."

Also, Option B gives her a little MYSTERY about your intentions and your interest, and that is what a woman wants. Remember: hope + doubt = passion.

So now that you've figured out that you need to give her a lower investment option to start out with, how do you do it exactly?

Easy. If you've only just met her on the street, you should see if she's got a minute for coffee or tea at the local coffee shop. Take the opportunity to build a little rapport and show her that you're FUN. The rest will come later if you can demonstrate a laid-back, fun personality.

If she doesn't have the time, you then shift into a lower gear and get her phone number and/or email address. After you put such a nice request out there for coffee and she turned you down, she's more likely to agree to give you her contact information, and in most cases she will write it right down.

If she hesitates, which is very likely because you're still essentially a stranger, then you need to reassure her by teasing her. That's right, teasing her.

HER: "Sorry, I don't give out my number." YOU: "It's okay, I'm only going to leave you a hundred messages on your machine. C'mon, write it down." Make her feel a little silly that she doubts your integrity and character. Teasing makes her forget about her weird trust issues.

Hand her a pen and paper and don't look her in the eye; just wait. The next person who speaks, loses.

Usually, she'll write it down. You have to be willing to wait out that long, uncomfortable silence while she figures out if you're a confident guy or a wimp. If you start talking and trying to reassure her of all the reasons she should feel okay about giving you her information, you've already lost.

Just act as if she could do nothing else, and she will do exactly what you want.

Once you have her contact information, you only need to get hold of her and invite her to complete the offer you originally made - tea or coffee at a certain local shop. It's a low-investment, and it's not too pushy or overtly "romantic" that she has to worry about where things have to go.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!", "Alpha Immersion" and "Alpha Man Communication & Persuasion".

Four ways to start a conversation with beautiful women.

Five ways to start a conversation with beautiful women anywhere and any time.

This post will be talking about mostly what we called "indirect opener"

Last post I was talking about Opener (how to start a conversation, cold approach to strangers)
Two types of openers you can use to start a conversation with any woman.

1) Direct
2) Indirect

These are the category of indirect opener type.

1- Opinion Opener (my all time favorite)

The opinion opener is the most common opener. It's structured where you go up to a woman and simply ask her opinion on something. The best opinion openers are ones which get them talking. I you go shopping during the day and see some hot lady at the mall or store. You could just ask her opinion on something like, "Hey, real quick. I need some female opinion on something. Do you think this shirt will go with me?" Then she will explain, then you will have to be the one who lead the conversation and keep it going.

Hot tips:
At the bar, you could ask their opinion about something dramatic but funny like Keep up with the gossip about famous people and such (women love that, donno why), talk about what happen to Britney, Lindsey, etc. Keep it light and fun.
Another suggestion on this one is read some lady's magazines (cosmopolitan or anything similar), trust me they always have some interesting topics. "Is it true that 9 out of 10 women own a vibrator?" Keep it fun, light and curious, I use that one for some time successfully.

2- Compliment Opener (or I usually use back hand compliment opener. It's more witty)

Most pickup lines could be classified as a Compliment Opener. For instance, a typical pickup line would be like: "Did it hurt? S/he: Did what hurt? When you fell out of heaven?"

Those type of lines are cheesy because they typically point out a physical characteristic instead of something which she has a control over.

With a compliment opener, you find something that she is wearing, doing or something about her that you can comment her on. For instance, she could be wearing something cool, laughing loud or be the leader of her group. Whatever you compliment her on, make sure it's genuine and something which she is actively doing.

I will talk about this one more next post!

3- Drama Opener (this is not really my favorite one at all, rarely use it unless something really happened.)

One important thing about this opener is that, you have to really be excited about something because if you fake it, most hot woman (smart ones) can tell by your body language that you lied (if you are using can materials).
It's true, Women love drama. Whether it's adventure, excitement or romance, women enjoy hearing about an interesting event. You can take advantage of this tendency by using the Drama Opener. With this type of opener, you go up to a group of women and talk about something exciting you just saw. Whether it was a catfight or simply some guy breaking up with his girlfriend, you can use this type of opener to engage a group and get them talking.


4- Situational Opener (Also my favorite)

A Situational Opener is a great conversation starter to use when you've just witnessed something interesting.
More on next post!

Recommended further Advance Material reading if you are interested to be GOOD with the ladies

Badboy Lifestyle Seduction Guide

How to start a conversation with a beautiful woman.

How to start a conversation with a beautiful woman. What should I say?
How to do it right?

There is the method called "Opener":

What is "Opener"
It's a form of pick up line, but not as cheesy and most of them are proven to be effective or field proved. It is basically a conversation starter, an excuse to talk to a person, and the beginning of the getting to know each other process.

NOTE* Lots of people misunderstand opener, they think just because they have the openers (canned openers), it will work. Openers are just tool, it's the you who will have to use it right.
Women pick up your vibe real quick. To successfully pull it off, go read my post on "The 7 Golden rule of approaching" Then you will know it takes more than just lines or gimmicks, it takes you as a whole being through personal development (it will take time to get good so you can pick up 8s, 9s or 10s!), successful pick up is mostly sub-communicating with women. This is what we as men DON'T get it!


Two ways to use opener to start a conversation with a beautiful stranger or anyone.

1) Direct Opener: You start a conversation by letting her know right away that you are interested in her. This is where you make your interest (*could be sexual but not necessary depending on the circumstance) known to the girl upfront, right away. For example, in a direct approach you might walk up to a woman and look right into her eyes and tell her how pretty, beautiful, cute, unique, or sexy she is.

2) Indirect Opener: This one could be categorize into many ways. But basically it means that you keep your sexual interest disguised, at least initially, while you talk or interact with the girl. In an indirect approach, you might ask a woman her opinion on something, suggest something, ask direction or time, or make fun of her if the situation provide (like if she drop a drink at the bar.) to open her.

Enough for the day, I will explain these in depth on my next post.

If you want to know more about openers and such!
Recommended Reading:

-Badboy Lifestyle Seduction Guide
-Magic Bullet: The Mystery Method
-The Dating Black Book


Peace!